Ooops. I think I better pull on the reigns and get this 'waiting to collide' mentoring gaffe back on track.
I said I do not solicit criticism, but didn’t say I can’t accept it. This is where ‘reading’ comes in handy, which I’ll be first stepping up to the home plate to admit getting swept up in swift downdrafts, frequently running downhill (real fast) backwards with wrong facts.
There are quite a few individuals, and vehicles, that do in fact mentor me…though from afar. Ahead of blaring bugles and snarling horns I hang in there with those who may wonder how much most really care about helping others anyway. With the amount of virtual advice criss-crossing Ethernets, and more on the way, by the shear volume of the calamity of things has to mean most of us must not be getting it. I wonder why, which happens to be the bow I’ll use as the excuse for why I don’t run around asking individuals what they think of this or that.
Standing back and admiring certain individuals from afar, absorbing their style if I can, just seems to be the way to go. For instance, take Lady A, who knows how to build houses on Saturn’s rings. Now I don’t even want a house, solar or otherwise, but I admire this Lady’s style. How she shops her materials, the way she speaks with contractors, how she corrects her home-building blunders, and seems to walk on solar rings, that’s the kind of stuff I feed on. A Lady like this I will watch every microscopic bit of her style, down to the way she chews food and belches, hoping to the heavens that no one advises a person like this to close their mouth when they chew. Please don’t do this. It may influence their flair, their style, the thing in them I admire, where said inspiration derives.
And still, there are those like Reggie Dabbs, who drops in with a book I had no idea was on the horizon, that turns my head, allowing me to grab a big dose of inspiration from that well as well. Improving on the areas we seek to improve need not come from trusted or untrusted sources, and neither from the same industry, nor in the form of what isn’t working. And trust me when I say I (don’t think) I’ll curl up in a shell and shiver for years about a harsh piece of advice. I’m probably my hardest critic anyway. The point being, ‘solicited’ inspiration comes across authentic and far more useful than guessing at the dozens of angles hanging around ‘unsolicited’ criticism.