...And before anyone gets offended, this list was created for my benefit. These are rules I continue to struggle with.
10. Avoid responding to remarks or questions you disagree with...all the time. (I had no idea, until recently, that when we were kids my sister used to pray whenever I joined 'the group'. I thought it was just a fluke ‘our’ friends had to eat dinner soon as I showed up.)
9. Try not to always have an answer for everything. (My daughter stills laughs at me about this one job interview. I laugh too...and was even laughing during the interview, though only I knew it, looking for the switch in a spot I couldn’t reach, trying to turn off my mouth!)
8. It’s okay to sometimes play dumb. In fact, it can be a lot of fun. Like who would know the difference anyway?
7. Be kind. (I am very humbled by all those who’ve been so patient with me when I was making an absolute fool of myself. I still remember the gentle look of one friend as she explained a very simple concept that at the time was way off my social radar.)
6. Think before you speak. (Okay, so this is a hard one for me because I am ALWAYS THINKING... which refers me back to...8...)
5. Smile. (Another hard one. This one requires a lot of concentration. I usually don’t smile unless something is funny.)
4. Compliment. I loved that quote in David Wehmeyer’s ‘Waiting for the Bell’ book. “No one cares about how much you know until they know how much you care.”
3. Develop an elevator pitch, practice it, and run with it if ever trapped in a dialogue as confined as an elevator. (My favorite topic is the weather. It’s hard to go wrong with that one.)
2. Live a little. Or rather, don’t take everything so serious. (Of course, I frequently mix this one up too. When I should be letting my hair down, it’s all knotted up, and when it should be pinned up, I’ll have it down, flowing like lava having myself a good ole time.)
1. Listen! Please learn to listen... or read. (I could write the book...in fact I will write the book on all of the times I had to pull my foot out of my mouth…since when I write that is the ONE time when I am free to do me!)